The reason you get up in the morning, without purpose we would all suffer from depression. It is the lifeblood of humanity, instinctive in all of us unless negative beliefs are getting in the way of it. Purpose creates a passion and tenacity for life, pushing people to do amazing things while still feeling satisfied and happy along the way.

What’s the point?

A sense of purpose “adds years to life”

A study found that having a purpose in life is linked to living longer, regardless of your age or retirement status.

A study asked over 6,000 people, aged 20 to 70, several questions relating to purpose, social relationships and more. The death rates of these people were recorded over 14 years. 596 people died, and all of them had worse scores on purpose and relationships, than the people that survived.

What is a purpose?

A purpose in life is why we do anything. It is the reason you get up in the morning, it is the reason you feel connected. Purpose is the motivation behind creating skyscrapers, building computers and designing video games. Having a purpose in life gives people motivation, and high self-esteem. Imagine having a direction in life, a goal that creates a burning desire within you. Think back to when you craved something so bad that you had to have it, this could be a new job, helping a friend recover, or to get a girl you had a crush on. This is what purpose is, and we have all felt it. Purpose gives us a plan, a target and an objective in life. Most important of all, it gives hope.

It is sadly lacking in today’s world, most young people don’t feel any meaning at all in their lives. This is very unhealthy and causes crime to increase, mental health to worsen and depression to be pretty much everywhere. Without purpose, people are forced to medicate themselves with drugs, alcohol and cigarettes. Have you not wondered why it is so common to work all week, and then get insanely drunk at the weekend? This all stems from a lack of purpose. Purpose gives us something to fight for, something to pull us through the bad times, something to guide us. A life purpose could be anything from taking care of others, to quantum physics; it is the fire that pushes you to do whatever you want.

Why do you need a purpose in life?

“HAPPINESS IS FLEETING, PURPOSE ISN’T”

You can live life without a purpose, but what kind of life is that? As it turns out, a very bad one. It is a life without responsibility or growth. Having no purpose in life is like a living without a soul or passion, it is the absence of responsibility, which can only leave you with suffering. Humans need something to fight for, something to achieve, it has been bred into us for millions of years; it is the reason you are here today. It is so easy in today’s society to have no purpose in life. There are no immediate dangers, and you have food on your table. This can sometimes make it harder to find a purpose, because modern life is very comfortable, making it unnecessary to push yourself. It forces you to feel depressed, anxious or fatigued. To avoid these feelings, you are going to have to find something to fight for, something you’d die for.

You need a purpose in life so that you can grow, so that you can become the best version of yourself. This is basically the meaning of life.  You will become all you can be along the way, because while the destination is important the journey makes you stronger. Thousands of years ago, our environment made sure that we became the best version of ourselves, but now we have to exert this pressure on ourselves. We have to create our own strong purpose, and chase after it. This is the only way to find fulfillment, and happiness.

What is it like to have a strong sense of purpose?

People, who live their lives with a strong sense of purpose, are becoming rarer. This is because of our modern society. However, the ones that remain have incredible lives. They understand what to prioritise and make plans according to this, they have astounding drives that, even when motivation is lacking, will cause them to get up and do what needs to be done. If their lives start going downhill, they can easily identify what truly matters to them and focus on it. As they live this life they become happier and more resilient as their years go on. They grow tough, stable and thick skinned. They have incredible emotional control.

Having a purpose helps you focus on short term goals much easier. These can be things like; doing homework, completing paperwork and working out. You are driven to achieve long term goals such as getting into university, becoming a royal marine or developing a skill. With a purpose in life comes meaning, security and pleasure. There is laughter, health and self-respect. People with a high level of purpose have great qualities, things like honesty, respect and generosity. They live life with the knowledge that whatever life throws at them, they will always have a purpose, and this is extremely comforting and at the same time motivating.

What if you don’t have a purpose?

If you are reading this and are one of the many people who struggle with finding a purpose, you are not alone. You may feel as if the day is always a struggle to get through, you feel confused, uncertain and between two minds. Without purpose comes no direction, no dreams, no goals, no passion and no soul. It is truly a very sad existence. The majority of your day may be filled up with menial tasks, to take your mind off of it, while all you have to look forward to is eating and sleeping, this isn’t living, this isn’t the right life for anyone.

You will wander aimlessly through life without any true fulfillment, or happiness. This is because these benefits come from becoming the person you need to be to, in order to achieve your purpose. If you live one day at a time, and don’t really think about where you’re going or want to go, then you have a purpose problem. A common one a lot of elderly people experience is that they think they feel they have done everything there is to do in life. If this sounds like you, then you need something to do, something to live for. Understand that you can achieve this at any moment.

How do you find your purpose in life?

Now that you know about purpose and how it can help you live a better life, how exactly do you discover your life’s purpose? Sometimes the toughest questions require the simplest behaviours. You will have to stop and self-reflect. You will have to spend some time with yourself, and become aware of what it is you really want to do. You will have to listen to that voice that you have shut away, and then do what it says. Sometime we have beliefs that can block us from our life’s purpose, removing these can also help massively. But how do you do this? The best way is through guided meditation. This is nothing but sitting with yourself, and listening to what is deep inside. You will then implement positive affirmations, which will become part of who you are. You will feel as if you have the ability to achieve your purpose in life. After you do this, you will become aware of what you want out of life, and are capable enough to figure out a way to get it; this is what a purpose is.

This will often involve changing your life, and changing the choices you make to follow your purpose. People may not like that you are doing this, but it is necessary. It is very important to have a vision for the future, but critically, this has to be your own vision for the future not somebody else’s. This would otherwise have no positive impact on your happiness, just somebody else’s. One important note would be that if you do start following your purpose, and truly enjoy what you’re doing, don’t compare yourself to others. Only look for inspiration but never to compare, as this will only end in sadness and discouragement.

Do not get confused, purpose is more than just what you want to do or what you want to be, it is who you want to be, it is your way of life…

The average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative, and 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before. Of these repeated thoughts 80% are negative.

Discover the powerful concept of clarity and end these negative thoughts.

CLARITY

Mental clarity is a state of mind. It is the ability to direct mental effort on something that a person believes to be the most important. There are no distractions, only thoughts that aid with this important task. It is essentially the mind working with the person, not against them. Luckily, this ability is a skill, meaning it can be improved.

What this means for you?

This state of mind is the solution to that annoying voice in your head. The voice stopping you in your tracks when you try to do the right thing for you, and your loved ones. Sometimes you can push through it, but this involves effort. Sometimes a lot, sometimes only some, but it will always feel forced. This behavior, repeated over and over again, will drain your energy causing you to give up. When mental clarity is achieved, you can desire to have something and effortlessly take the actions necessary to get it, no thoughts to battle and no self-sabotaging. Tasks are completed with unimaginable ease, because no energy is being wasted from your mind not being on your side.

It is living life with complete harmony between your actions, your thoughts and your emotions.

Imagine having zero irritating or distracting thoughts throughout your day, what would that feel like? You would have a huge amount of mental energy and focus available, this could be used on other things, things you actually want to focus on. Mental clarity means no hesitation in the things that you know are the right thing to do. You will understand your purpose and pursue it. Mental clarity is a state of extreme engagement without stress. It is a state of being fully awake.

With clarity comes a deep understanding of what you want, and don’t want in life, you can easily distinguish urgent tasks from important ones. You do what needs to be done in order to achieve what you really want. You won’t have the desire to procrastinate or goof off, because the thoughts that cause this will be nonexistent. You will see things that you like, and do not like and act accordingly. You will recognize your strengths then feel empowered, while being able to acknowledge your weaknesses, so they can be worked on.

Furthermore, mental clarity involves a very non-judgmental look on reality, you can see reality, without a filter, creating unhelpful beliefs and thoughts in your head, but as it actually is. You will begin to see the problems of others much easier, you will have the ability to understand your responsibility in these situations and react accurately.

This means that when your friends don’t invite you out, you don’t panic become resentful and bitter, but you simply call ask to tag along for the ride. It means that when your child fails an exam in school, you don’t flip out and worry about being a failure of a mother, you actually talk, and find out that they are having trouble with a classmate. I could go on, but the situations where mental clarity can help are endless.

What is the alternative?

The opposite of clarity isn’t pleasant. It’s hell. This is the state a lot of people are in. They waste away their days with no drive and zero passion, binging on television or bad food, which worsens their brain fog further. This is part of the reason for the prescription drug epidemic in the us, and the increasing suicide rate in Europe. This is especially true for young males, where their sense of purpose is even more paramount, but without clarity they stand no chance of seeing one. As well as this, the more time you spend asleep (living without clarity) the harder it is to come out of, because it is an addiction. You become addicted to this low level behavior. You have become addicted to mediocrity. The only thing you have to do is accept that you’re not a clear as you would like to be, once you do this there’s no going back. If you decide not to change, there will now be a niggling thought in the back of your mind, telling you to do something. Either use this voice as motivation, or allow it to grow, your choice.

You will have to understand that you don’t have to be an aimless zombie, you can wake up at any time, and all you have to do is become aware.

A life without clarity is full of confusion, low confidence and wasted opportunities. Imagine being in a situation where you wake up feeling depressed about the day ahead, wishing you were back in dreamland. Maybe this sounds familiar. If this is you, you don’t have to suffer any longer, you don’t have to let conflicting values and thoughts ruin your life.

 If you are like this, your friends are probably the same way. They will make you think it is weird to want the best for yourself, they will say you have changed, mock you for it. Don’t let this deter you. I know this might be hard for some people, but you’re going to have to find new friends who will push you to be happier, because if you do fix the direction of your life, your friends will continually drag you back down.

“Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.”

Don’t try to change them it never works their ego gets involved and its never ending. However the best thing you can do is change yourself and inspire them to do better, inspire them to take responsibility of their lives and change. That is the only way, trust me.

How to avoid pain, and gain clarity of mind

So, how do you achieve this state of mind? How do you get to the point, where you know what you have to do, and how to do it? The best solution is guided meditation. This is the process of delving into your mind, to find out what has been installed into your subconscious. You will find out what is causing you to feel uncertain and foggy. We use several techniques, and force you to be with yourself without any distraction. This may be painful. Good. You have tried escaping your mind and never succeeded. The tough part is that you have to do the opposite of escaping; you have to sit down without any distractions for a period of time. A lot of things should start bubbling up. Unpleasant things. Things you don’t want to face. The coach will help you through the process, with the promise that the other side is very bright, so don’t be worried. You may cry, you may feel uncomfortable, but this is good. You need to be proactive, and face your subconscious. You will then come out the other side to find clarity, and I promise you if it is your first time you will feel astounding.

Next is to put in a few beliefs and ideas, which may help with finding clarity of mind. They will be things that stop you from being afraid, they will prevent depression and stave off anxiety. These feelings were all born from a lack of clarity the binge eating or impulsive shopping is not the answer here, despite what society has told. It’s time to take action and gain some positivity back in your life. If your happiest memories are from childhood, which is the upsetting case for a lot of people, then this is the answer you have been searching for. Start living your life in peace and enjoyment. Start living with clarity.

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