Learn to develop realistic milestones

One of the benefits of my self-development program is that it addresses your negative thoughts at their root. While we won’t need to delve into your trauma or discuss any personal aspects of your history, I will teach you productive ways to move past it and become a healthier, more confident person.

Trauma is often associated with extreme experiences like going to war or enduring serious injuries. However, it’s important to recognise that we experience various smaller traumas throughout our lives. Every situation we live through holds the potential for trauma; even without experiencing physical pain, a seemingly minor event can leave a deep emotional impact, especially on children.

A common belief in psychology suggests that if we want our children to develop a secure sense of self, we should avoid using the word “no” altogether. Even a simple denial can have a lasting effect. These traumas can affect anyone, regardless of their upbringing, as it is our perspective and reactions to situations that determine whether we grow into contented adults or damaged individuals.

When we are taught to be inauthentic and suppress our true selves, our self-esteem suffers. We begin to feel unworthy and lose our sense of wholeness. In an attempt to fill this void, we seek external sources of temporary relief such as alcohol, drugs, or medication, only to find that they fail to numb the internal trauma. This fleeting escapism often leads to depression.

At the core, human beings are born complete and whole. Babies do not have intentions to cause harm; they thrive in an environment of acceptance and live in peaceful harmony. This innate state of happiness and well-being still exists within us, regardless of our circumstances. Unfortunately, modern society sometimes strips us of this natural state. Though people around us may not intend to inflict harm, their actions can unknowingly cause deep emotional wounds.

It is crucial for individuals to realise that they once felt good, respected, and cared for. Reclaiming these positive emotions requires acknowledging that we are now responsible for how we feel. Otherwise, we will continue to live lives filled with escapism and suffering.

There has to be a better way.

Many of us have been conditioned and continue to grapple with past traumas daily. We may have become so accustomed to this way of life that we believe it is an inherent part of our being. However, that is not the case. To regain a sense of wholeness, we must cease our escape and delve into the subconscious to uncover the stories we tell ourselves.

Take a moment to ask yourself, “Why do I feel inadequate?” It may reveal experiences of parental abuse, mocking by friends, or other reasons that need exploration. Sometimes, resistance surrounds our trauma, making it challenging to confront directly. In such cases, identifying our fears can help to fight the negative beliefs shaping our lives.

Ar Holistic Therapies represents a new school of thought aimed at addressing the increasing mental suffering prevalent in modern society. The fundamental philosophy of these treatments is that positivity is the ultimate solution to the world’s problems. By first healing ourselves, we can radiate positivity outward.