Willpower is an important attribute to have, especially when dealing with hardship or adversity, which causes us to lack motivation. Despite that, it is those times when we most need our willpower. Therefore, the ability to develop willpower when times are good and positive is the best tool we can use to maintain a powerful sense of willpower to fend negativity throughout life.
What is willpower?
Willpower is about self-control and the ability to maintain focus or restrain ourselves from doing something. Self-control is something that most people struggle with from time to time, especially when faced with temptation or difficult decisions. By developing willpower, we enable ourselves to take greater control and pride over how we choose to live our life, rather than simply living without decisiveness over our actions and why we make them or not.
How to Regulate Self-control
The development of self-control and willpower can be complex and, like most self-development, requires substantial work, and ironically, will. We first need to understand that developing willpower requires willpower in itself. Confusing? It might seem that way. Essentially, the decision to hold yourself accountable for your actions and set standards with which you decide to stick is your responsibility and one which you need to take seriously to succeed. The groundwork of developing willpower is this sense of discipline and decisiveness that we must find within ourselves before we further our self-work. If you intend to build will, you have to take the journey seriously.
Once you have established an attitude that enables you to act in your best interests and with the capacity to motivate yourself, your development of willpower and self-control requires the forming of habits. When the task of doing something for a prolonged period can seem complicated, the best way to do this is to take tiny bits at a time. If you want the willpower to quit smoking, it is far easier to tell yourself, ‘I simply won’t smoke today, rather than, ‘I won’t smoke for a week’. The development of willpower does take time, so small steps that ease and acclimatise you into the correct mindset are essential. Taking small steps towards a long-term goal enable you to establish the habit without feeling fear about it.
The single most valuable skill for developing willpower is guided meditation. The power of guided meditation allows you to realign your mindset to establish your goals and aims from a rational perspective with clarity and empathy. This more gentle and self-aware approach to understanding why we must develop and alter our habits can be highly beneficial, and in doing so, shifting to a positive outlook (which can be created simply through guided meditation) will enable you to ascertain what is holding you back from having willpower and why we behave in specific ways. Using guided meditation epitomises the idea of self-work as a practice that requires us to develop for ourselves, and in doing so, we can be better people.