Love is, generally speaking, a range of strong positive emotions that we experience. We can feel love interpersonally, but also to objects and experiences. Everybody experiences love in different ways. Still, it can be difficult to express love if certain obstacles such as the trauma of abuse or negative experiences hold you back. However, these can be overcome through self-work and the development of a greater spiritual understanding of why you face such problems. First and foremost, you must accept that you are worthy of giving and receiving love.


It is imperative that we love ourselves. How can we expect to love other people and be loved in return if we cannot first love ourselves? It can be a hard truth to swallow. Still, self-love is most important because we are our ultimate partner in life and an inability to work as an individual cause tremendous difficulty in coping with life’s challenges.

Struggling to love

Trauma can prevent us from loving fully and wholeheartedly. We may have experienced childhood neglect or abuse or experienced disloyalty in a relationship. The reasons we struggle to love are not limited to specific experiences but can be varied and wide, they are not prescriptive, but they are all equally valid to the individual.

Love for others

Acting lovingly towards others is a brilliant and appropriate way of expressing gratitude for those who do good in our lives. Karmically, by giving out the positivity of love, we can expect to receive positivity in return. It is normal and natural that we should feel love for others, although we experience different types for different people. We think of the closeness of shared experience and a bond of giving and receiving care with family. With friends, bonds are often formed through shared interests and similarities in character. People find love in partners through sexual attraction and through a sense of completion that comes from finding somebody with shared interests, as one would with a friend.

Why do we love?

When we find compatibility with other people, love is a chemical response to enjoying companionship. Love is a natural human emotion that everyone experiences. We actively search out love and attachment to others as part of our life on earth. Humans are not solitary creatures, and as a result, we thrive in communities and feel a need to be close to others.

Guided Meditation

Guided meditation is an effective method of helping to open the heart and allow for love. Though we may struggle past the pitfalls of trauma and difficulty opening ourselves up to others, love is an integral part of our lives. Being able to form loving relationships is something everybody can aspire to. Guided meditation can help uncover the trauma experienced by the individual through a distanced viewing and analysis of the thought patterns that cause you to resist love and techniques that can improve your sense of love for the self and others. Self-love techniques include journaling, positive affirmations and self-talk and visualisations of favourable situations.

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