Balance allows the world to be in complete harmony, without it your life will be full of torment and misery.  Master balance in your mind, body, and relationships and you will live a truly happy life.
Balance

“Life is no more than a dewdrop balancing on the end of a blade of grass” – Buddha.

 

What is a Balanced Life?

A balanced life consists of a number of things that are in complete harmony with each other. If even one of them is too off balance it can have drastic effects on the quality of someone’s life. First, is internal balance? This is where the mind, heart, and health are in the correct place. The second is external balance, where things like work, social life, family and fun need to be considered. All of these aspects are necessary for a balanced life and it all starts with the beliefs system you have about each of them. If you subconsciously believe that you shouldn’t be healthy then you won’t be. On the flip side if you believe that you must be healthy at all costs then this will damage you in other ways. You see, there needs to be a balance.

Life without balance

A life without balance is miserable and full of struggle. This happens when anything that provides a happy life is out of balance, either too much or too little. If every aspect is out of balance then it may look something like this:

The mind becomes weak, nervous and uncomfortable you begin to worry what other people think of you and the voice inside telling you are worthless becomes louder and louder the more you neglect your it. Transversely the mind could become burnt out and you feel tired and fatigued with zero motivation. Also, the heart becomes poor at giving or receiving love, this leads to a drop in self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness begin to emerge. Furthermore, health will be suffering either with eating, drinking the wrong things and exercising poorly. This can lead to health conditions and may potentially shorten your lifespan while increasing your pain. On the other hand, you could be obsessed with fitness and solely focused on counting every gram of food and working out every day. This is also a bad choice as it will lead to a poor social life, mental disorders and depression.

On the external, if work is lacking or there is too much work in a person’s life it will either cause them to have poor finances or impact other areas if there is too much time spent working. If there isn’t enough of a social life then you can become depressed, lonely and anxious. On the other hand, if there is too much then this affects work life, health, and other areas. The same also applies to family and fun where negatives occur if there is too much or too little in a person life.

What Causes an Unbalanced Life?

We are all born balanced and with high self-esteem. If we carry this through to adulthood our health, wealth and relationships will be balanced but for many people this isn’t the case. The constant social conditioning causes you to become unbalanced. It is all of the little traumas you have experienced throughout your life, with each one you blocked off a part of yourself crucial for remaining balanced. The degree to which this happens depends on the person and the environment they grew up in. When you are punished as a child, it is traumatizing because you are very vulnerable and without your parents you would die. This means that you do whatever they say in fear of being left to die. It sounds extreme but this is the reality of a small child. Now in adulthood it is still felt with the same intensity and only inner work can deal with this trauma to release it.

A life with balance

I life with balance is the ideal state to be in it involves being right in the middle of a healthy mind, heart, and body. These are the internal parts of life that need balance. If the mind is balanced then you challenge yourself intellectually while creating opportunities for your mind to rest. This keeps the mind sharp but not burnt out leaving you with a calm feeling of being content.  If the heart is balanced then you give love but are still able to receive it equally. This allows you to feel good expressing to your loved ones but also recharge while accepting love back, today a lot of people struggle with the receiving of love, which can lead to depression. Finally, health that is balanced means eating a healthy diet and exercising properly while not obsessing over it. It should come from a place where you want to eat healthily and not to escape something.

A balanced external life involves taking care of your work, social life, family and fun. Firstly, a balanced work life means pushing yourself to achieve your goals but also enjoying the journey and seeing the bigger picture. This leads to a large sense of satisfaction with life knowing that you are making an impact and helping the world in some way. Next is social life, where the best way is to satisfy your social desires with friends but also taking time for yourself. If either is neglected you can become lonely or forget your true needs and become unsettled. Furthermore, a balanced family life is where your familial responsibilities are being fulfilled and also healthy boundaries are created so you can live the life you truly want and not have people walk all over you. This is critical and leads to a sense of belonging and high self-esteem. Lastly is fun where you must allocate time for things you enjoy doing but making sure you don’t overdo it to remain balanced. This helps keep you sane and see life as a way to thrive and not just survive.

How can you become more balanced?

A balanced life should come naturally if you are being your real self, however, it may have been conditioned out of you from years of outside influence. This can cause the balance to be lost and we have to consciously think about it to keep it together, this is very tiring. The best thing you can do to get a more balanced life is to reconnect with that authentic self and remove some of the negative beliefs you have gathered. A good way to do this is with guided meditation where we sit and relax into ourselves to see what comes up, sometimes it can be positive but if you are reading this, it will most likely be negative and that is a good thing. This means we can release them much easier when these beliefs are at the surface. We also use a positive thinking programme to get you to remember some of the original beliefs you had about yourself and the ideas of living with balance.

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