The behaviour of trying to attract attention from others by being disruptive or extremely extroverted is something that can occur within all of us. Attention seeking revolves around the idea that we act in the hope of gaining validation or acceptance. Most people who exhibit the behaviour are believed to do so without much regard for the potential consequence. While there are many reasons why we may act in this way, purposefully or not, we can endeavour to find the root of the problem and understand why this behaviour is negatively affecting us.

Why do we Seek Attention?

Attention seeking occurs for a plethora of reasons. Sometimes it can happen out of jealousy or because we feel threatened by other people. But on the flip side, we may be compelled to seek attention because we lack self-esteem or find ourselves lonely, as a result seeking attention in desperation of communication or reassurance. Generally, the reasons we seek attention are associated with negative self-talk and a lack of confidence or belief in ourselves.

The Problem with Attention Seeking

Attention seeking is neither a constructive nor a genuine way of seeking communication or solving our problems. Attention seeking behaviour seeks to deflect or avoid the issues we face by finding quick resolve in attention or disruptive, harmful behaviour. While it may seem easy to gain attention due to our shortcomings, working on the short comings in the first place is a better, more important way of resolving the wrongs, which makes us act poorly in the first place.

How to Prevent Attention Seeking

In ourselves, we can aim to prevent attention-seeking through the mindful analyses of why we are motivated to act in specific ways, especially if they are sporadic or unpredictable. It can be difficult, but developing such a thought process can be beneficial in identifying a leaning towards attention-seeking and actively attempting to stop such behaviour.

In others, the technique of planned ignoring is often helpful in preventing attention-seeking behaviour. This works by avoiding responding to behaviour which you deem intended to seek attention. As attention-seeking is intended to respond, deliberately ignoring it is often the most effective solution that allows it to cease.

Guided Meditation

The technique of guided meditation allows us to mindfully view our thought processes and therefore gain awareness of whether we are acting to seek attention or not. Often, we may not even know we are working in an attention-seeking manner. Furthermore, the empathetic skills we can gain through the practice of guided meditation over time may lead to a broader perspective and greater understanding of why and how people aim to seek attention. Through guided meditation, we can take a two-pronged approach to the experience and stopping of attention-seeking behaviours and the effects they have upon us by targeting both ourselves and other people to develop more constructive habits.

Autonomy

The experience of autonomy can be characterised by our ability to self-govern and express freedom from external control or influence. The importance of autonomy is that we can live for ourselves and decide our own morality away from the opinions or reasoning of anybody else. This power is especially key to our lives because it means we can distinguish ourselves and seek to resolve problems in unique ways. The concept of autonomy and its implications are still widely debated in many spheres today.

Autonomy in Philosophy

The problems found with the concept of autonomy are rather complicated and continue to create conundrums which are not easily solved. If you believe in a particular religious denomination, considering how your relationship with God affects your autonomy can be difficult and a point which creates dilemmas and questions in your faith.

Alternatively, people enjoy considering how autonomy is part of the freedom afforded us by God, or how we can have faith that our ‘autonomy’ is in fact a meticulously planned set of ideals put forth by a higher power in order to assure our lives follow a divine path.

Regardless of what you believe, the concept of autonomy remains something hard to grasp and understand within the grand scheme of things.

Why We Should Appreciate Our Autonomy

Learning to understand how our autonomy allows us freedom in a plethora of ways is incredibly insightful and should provide us with a great deal of gratitude. Consider your mind, and all the power it holds within it, the original ideas and the concepts and morals you find peace in following. When we live a life full of passion, doing what we want to do and enjoying the opportunities presented to us, both to live peacefully and exercise our right to make a difference, we are using our autonomy to be happy, which is something we should certainly all be aiming towards.

Guided Meditation

By utilising the practice of guided meditation, we can come to appreciate our autonomy far more. Exploring the depths of the psyche in a constructive fashion, as well as establishing why we feel the way we feel about particular concepts and ideas. By developing this deep, positive sense of self, we can grow to use our autonomy to stand up for ourselves more, using improved self-confidence and self-esteem, as well as by establishing how we can use our autonomy to help other people as well. It is not simply a case of acknowledging our autonomy but creating ways of using it for good through personal development.

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