At Ar Holistic Therapies, we offer a Positive Thinking Training Programme with guided meditation to help you understand yourself on a deeper level. This includes exploring your inner and outer challenges and embracing your dark side—those parts of yourself you may hide, deny or avoid.
Acknowledging fears, insecurities and unresolved traumas is essential for personal growth. When you confront these shadow aspects, you gain the ability to heal, build self-awareness, strengthen emotional resilience and become a more authentic, empowered individual. This inner work fosters healthier relationships and a deeper sense of peace.
Let us support you on your transformative journey toward holistic well-being and self-discovery.
Are You Experiencing Negative Emotions?
Negative emotions can arise from various sources, including past experiences like childhood issues, unfair treatment or trauma. These emotions significantly impact your mental and emotional well-being.
Common negative emotions and experiences include:
• Sadness
• Anger
• Anxiety
• Fear
• Guilt
• Shame
• Embarrassment
• Regret
• Resentment
• Loneliness
• Stress
• Depression
• Betrayal
• Disappointment
• Grief
• Sorrow
• Heartbreak
• Helplessness
• Powerlessness
• Overthinking
• Worry about the future
• Nervousness
• Insecurity
• Uncertainty
• Self-doubt
• Dishonour
• Abandonment
• Bitterness
• Loss
• Defeat
Acknowledging these emotions and understanding their origins is crucial for personal growth and healing.
Mental and Emotional Blockages
Mental and emotional blockages can manifest as:
• Negative self-talk
• Inner critic
• Limiting beliefs
• Unrealistic standards or expectations
• Fear of failure or success
• Low self-esteem
• Self-sabotage
• Procrastination
• Attachment issues
• Lack of boundaries
• Difficulty expressing emotions
• Bottling up emotions
• Challenges in communicating feelings
• Rigid thinking patterns
• Resistance to change
• Black-and-white thinking
• Constant comparison to others
• Lack of purpose
• Feeling lost or aimless
• Lack of clarity about personal goals
These blockages hinder your ability to live a fulfilling life and achieve your potential.
Negative Personality Traits and Behaviours
Negative personality traits and behaviours include:
• Aggressiveness
• Arrogance
• Argumentativeness
• Closed-mindedness
• Controlling behaviour
• Cynicism
• Deceitfulness
• Defensiveness
• Dependency
• Disrespect
• Dishonesty
• Disorganisation
• Egotism
• Envy
• Greed
• Impulsivity
• Inconsideration
• Indecisiveness
• Inflexibility
• Insecurity
• Intolerance
• Irresponsibility
• Laziness
• Manipulativeness
• Materialism
• Narcissism
• Neediness
• Oversensitivity
• Pessimism
• Prejudice
• Procrastination
• Rigidity
• Self-centredness
• Stubbornness
• Unreliability
• Vindictiveness
• Withdrawal
• Rudeness
• Agitation
Recognising and addressing these traits can lead to improved relationships and overall well-being.
Negative Behaviours or Habits
Negative behaviours or habits include:
• Blame-shifting
• Laziness
• Procrastination
• Addictive behaviours
• Recklessness
• Dishonest communication
• Passivity
• Defeatism
• Unreliability
• Disorganisation
• Manipulative behaviour
• Sabotage
• Gossiping
• Violence
These behaviours harm both yourself and those around you, leading to further negative consequences.
Destructive Behaviour
Destructive behaviour encompasses a wide range of actions that can harm oneself, others or the environment.
Traits often associated with destructive behaviour include:
• Impulsivity
• Aggression
• Manipulation
• Deceitfulness
• Irresponsibility
• Addiction
• Self-harm
• Isolation
• Risky behaviour
• Sabotage
• Defiance
• Self-sabotage
• Inability to cope with stress
• Low self-esteem
• Perfectionism
• Obsessive behaviour
• Inflexibility
• Blame-shifting
• Impatience
• Avoidance
• Negativity
• Envy/Jealousy
• Narcissism
• Entitlement
• Excessive control
• Dishonesty
• Avoidance of accountability
• Compulsive behaviour
• Escapism
Personality Disorders
Personality disorders are characterised by enduring patterns of behaviour, cognition and inner experience that deviate markedly from cultural expectations and cause distress or impairment in functioning.
Cluster A: Odd or Eccentric Behaviour
Paranoid Personality Disorder
- Persistent distrust and suspicion of others’ motives
- Unwarranted belief that others are trying to harm, exploit or deceive
- Reluctance to confide in others due to fear of betrayal
- Hypervigilance and readiness to counterattack perceived threats
Schizoid Personality Disorder
- Detachment from social relationships and a limited range of emotional expression
- Preference for solitary activities and little desire for close relationships
- Indifference to praise or criticism
- Lack of interest in sexual experiences and intimacy
Schizotypal Personality Disorder
- Eccentric behaviour, odd beliefs or magical thinking
- Social anxiety and discomfort in interpersonal relationships
- Paranoid ideation or beliefs in special powers or abilities
- Unusual perceptual experiences, such as illusions or hallucinations
Cluster B: Dramatic, Emotional or Erratic Behaviour
Antisocial Personality Disorder
- Disregard for and violation of the rights of others
- Deceitfulness, impulsivity and irresponsibility
- Aggressiveness and lack of remorse for harming others
- Persistent pattern of criminal behaviour or manipulation for personal gain
Borderline Personality Disorder
- Intense and unstable relationships with alternating extremes of idealisation and devaluation
- Identity disturbance and chronic feelings of emptiness
- Impulsive behaviours such as reckless driving, substance abuse or self-harm
- Emotional instability marked by rapid mood swings and intense, uncontrollable anger
Histrionic Personality Disorder
- Excessive attention-seeking behaviour and shallow, rapidly shifting emotions
- Constant need for reassurance or approval
- Inappropriately seductive or provocative behaviour
- Easily influenced by others or situations
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- Grandiosity and a need for admiration
- Sense of entitlement and exploitation of others for personal gain
- Lack of empathy and disregard for the feelings and needs of others
- Fragile self-esteem that is vulnerable to criticism or failure
Cluster C: Anxious or Fearful Behaviour
Avoidant Personality Disorder
- Social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy and hypersensitivity to negative evaluation
- Avoidance of social or occupational activities that involve interpersonal contact
- Fear of rejection or criticism, despite a strong desire for social connection
- Reluctance to take risks or engage in new activities due to fear of embarrassment
Dependent Personality Disorder
- Excessive reliance on others to make decisions or provide emotional support
- Difficulty expressing disagreement or initiating projects independently
- Fear of abandonment and desperation to maintain relationships
- Submissive and passive behaviour in interpersonal interactions
Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder
- Preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism and control
- Inflexibility and insistence on rules or schedules
- Excessive devotion to work to the detriment of leisure activities and relationships
- Difficulty delegating tasks and reluctance to discard worn-out or worthless objects
Paranoid Traits
• Persistent distrust
• Suspiciousness
• Hypervigilance
• Reluctance to confide
• Interpretation of innocent events as threatening
• Grudges
• Hostility
• Avoidance of blame
• Projection
• Isolation
• Rigid and unforgiving
• Difficulty relaxing
• Perceived attacks on reputation
• Perfectionism
• Excessive caution
• Exaggerated self-reliance
• Preoccupation with hidden meanings
• Need for control
• Overreaction to criticism
• Limited emotional expression
Understanding Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)
Definition: Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is a complex psychological condition characterised by the presence of two or more distinct identities or personality states within an individual.
Key Concepts
- Host Personality: The core identity responsible for daily functioning
- Alters (Alternate Personalities): Distinct identities within an individual, each with its own unique characteristics
Types of Alters
- Child Alters: Represent younger versions of the individual
- Protector Alters: Defend the individual from perceived threats or harm
- Persecutor Alters: Exhibit self-destructive or aggressive behaviours
- Helper Alters: Assist with daily tasks, emotional regulation and communication
- Fusion Alters: Result from multiple identities merging to form a single, more cohesive personality
- Animal Alters: Take on characteristics and behaviours of animals
- Fictional or Fantasy Alters: Based on characters from books, movies or imaginary creations
- Non-Human Alters: Do not identify as human
- Fragmented Alters: Incomplete or less developed identities holding specific emotions or memories
Additional Concepts
- Switching: When one alter takes control of behaviour and consciousness from another
- Amnesia: Each alter may have its own memories, resulting in gaps in the host’s memory
- Co-consciousness: Alters can be aware of each other’s presence and activities
- Integration: The merging of alters to form a cohesive sense of self
- Triggers: Stimuli that can trigger switches between alters
- Structural Dissociation: Splitting of personality into different parts due to trauma
Negative Traits and Behaviours
• Dishonesty
• Cruelty
• Selfishness
• Lack of empathy
• Exploitation
• Manipulativeness
• Intolerance
• Arrogance
• Greed
• Injustice
• Betrayal
• Manipulative behaviour
• Indifference
• Egotism
• Spitefulness
• Ingratitude
• Prejudice
• Narcissism
• Inflexibility
• Cowardice
• Infidelity
• Sadism
• Envy
• Hypocrisy
• Hypocrisy
• Recklessness
• Impulsivity
• Aggressiveness
• Low tolerance for frustration
• Irresponsibility
• Lack of remorse or guilt
• Antisocial behaviour
• Superficial charm
• Sensation-seeking
• Poor impulse control
• Difficulty forming meaningful relationships
• Substance abuse
• Parasitic lifestyle
• Blaming others
• Persistent rule-breaking
• Thrill-seeking behaviour
• Impression management
• Inability to learn from past mistakes
• Adaptability to criminal subculture
• Poor problem-solving skills
• Lack of long-term goals
• Psychopathy or sociopathy
• Cunningness
• Physical abuse
• Emotional abuse
• Sexual abuse
• Neglect
• Domestic violence
• Substance abuse in the family
• Parental mental illness
• Parental separation or divorce
• Bullying
• Peer rejection
• Traumatic loss
• Accidents or injuries
• Chronic illness or disability
• Community violence
• Natural disasters
• War or political conflict
• Cultural or religious trauma
• Foster care or institutionalisation
• Emotional neglect
• Bullying by siblings
• Parental substance abuse
• Witnessing traumatic events
• Abandonment
• Sexual or gender identity discrimination
• Medical trauma
Impact of Childhood Issues, Abuse and Traumas
Childhood issues, abuse and traumas significantly affect a child’s physical, emotional and psychological well-being, impacting their development and quality of life. Early intervention and support are crucial for children to heal and thrive despite these challenges.
• Emotional scars
• Trust issues
• Low self-esteem
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
• Substance abuse
• Self-harm
• Difficulty forming relationships
• Social isolation
• Anger issues
• Self-blame
• Attachment issues
• Sleep disorders
• Eating disorders
• Sexual dysfunction
• Dissociation
• Perfectionism
• Avoidance behaviour
• Health problems
• Impaired coping skills
• Flashbacks and intrusive thoughts
• Difficulty setting boundaries
• Hopelessness
• Suicidal thoughts or attempts
Recognising these traits is crucial for protecting oneself from toxic and abusive individuals and maintaining healthy boundaries. If you’re dealing with someone who exhibits many of these traits, seeking support and considering distancing yourself from the relationship is often the best course of action.
By acknowledging and addressing these negative emotions, blockages, personality traits and behaviours, you can work towards personal growth, healing and a more fulfilling life.
