One of the hardest things we go through in life is grief. Firstly, it is essential to realise that however, grief affects us is valid and not at all abnormal – everybody experiences different expressions of grief. There is no set method for coping with such an issue, and as a result, we can struggle to cope with or understand the path we must take out of grief. However, if we find it hard to cope with the problems faced in distress, speaking to a professional or a medical expert can be preferable.
Starting a conversation about the wider implications and effects of grief mean we can channel our pain into helping others succeed in moving past their problems whilst we too try to do that. Our ability to help others through empathy and communication is ceaseless.
Sadness and Feeling Stuck
Most commonly, after grief, we feel a sense of sadness that cannot be explained away, and with it, a sense of stagnation means you cannot move on with your life. This is not something that we should push away thoughtlessly, for grief is not something that goes away. However, it is essential to develop techniques of moving through and processing the emotions you feel to succeed in coping and learning to live again.
Sometimes we can be unsure of what we feel, which can lead to a sense of stagnation and isolation. We must continue communicating and (however successfully) attempting to share our ideas to others about the grief we feel. This way, we can maintain relationships as best possible with the resources we have.
There are many different effects of grief portrayed in our actions because of the suffering we have experienced. For example, crying and seeking to talk about our experience, however, are not the only responses, and if we do not feel those things, there is not anything wrong with you. Often the bereaved seem to experience seeing or hearing the person they have lost. This, too, is a normal reaction, ‘contact experiences’ are extremely common. Laughter, too, is healthy, despite what we might think. Truthfully, we need to experience and allow others to share grief freely and how they want to, without forcing a narrative or insisting that they feel certain things because of their suffering.
A tool in exploring the grief we feel and learning to process it is guided meditation. This allows us to explore the deep subconscious through healthy activities that expand the mind and cause us to inspect our emotions with care and curiosity. Through this, we can understand our grieving processes better and align ourselves with the ideas we want to develop further in our journey through grief. Guided meditation is highly personal and, as a result, does not aim to act prescriptively towards the issues faced in distress.