The creation of false victimhood is something that occurs more commonly than we may think. There are many reasons why somebody may choose to ‘play the victim’ in a situation. For example, to justify abuse given to others, manipulate, as a coping mechanism, a cry for help, or seek attention.

When somebody plays the victim, they dehumanise and divert the attention from others by claiming their actions are justified, allowing them to abuse and manipulate power dynamics, using their falsified victimhood as an excuse for poor behaviour previously.

Why Do People Play the Victim?

The underlying psychology of victim playing suggests that people do it often as a form of the psychological game. They can elicit something they want or prevent something they do not wish to by manipulating a specific situation through victimising themselves. Others have suggested that certain individuals play the victim to elicit detailed information from others to gain a sense of power within a case or specific dynamic.

Sometimes, people play the victim because they do not feel as though they can do anything otherwise. Self-victimising is part of a cyclic negative complex that causes their low self-esteem to reflect that they believe themselves to be victims continually. Much like this, sometimes people use victimhood to elicit help; this is especially well-known among substance abusers.

How to Avoid Playing the Victim

Most of us recognise and know why we should not play the victim; we understand the nuances of manipulation. It can affect other people; we also understand the problems we may face if we produce fabricated stories and emotions to elicit responses from others. Despite this, we find ourselves playing the victim more than we may realise. If times are challenging or stressful, we may see ourselves doing it without even knowing we have. If we enter a negative thought cycle, we may instantaneously start referring to ourselves in terms of victimhood.

There are several steps to undo such behaviours. First of all, we must act with good positivity. Techniques such as positive affirmation and visualisation maybe what we need to get ourselves out of a negativity slump, causing us to self-victimise. Consider that when you next feel yourself drowning in the depths of negativity. We can erase negativity by realigning with positive thoughts if we so try. Guided meditation is another effective method of reassessing our thought patterns to better suit how we act and analyse our behaviour patterns. With guided meditation, the help of a mentor allows you to understand why, in the depths of the psyche, we may be playing the victim.

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