Forgiveness is a release mechanism crucial to your mental wellbeing. You must forget that forgiveness is for the other person who has wronged you, it is for you. If you do not forgive, emotions will grow inside of your subconscious creating a very closed and depressed mind. Find out how to release the emotions by forgiving others and yourself.
“If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.” What is Forgiveness? Forgiveness is very important to a person’s mental and spiritual health. In order to achieve a more peaceful mind, you must first forgive yourself entirely as well as everyone else. Forgiving yourself or someone else is not as simple as saying sorry or simply thinking that you have forgiven yourself, it is much deeper than that. Your subconscious emotions are what may be keeping you from becoming truly forgiving. There are intense emotions felt deep within you when which need to be embraced in order to forgive. When real forgiveness happens there is a change in how you ‘feel’ about the situation. Forgiveness is a necessary process that needs to come after any kind of trauma, otherwise, you believe there is something wrong with you. This quality is there in all of us, but we tend to push it under the carpet. In today’s society it is not encouraged as much as it should be and many times our ego does not allow us to tend to these emotions. Life With Forgiveness A life that is continually being filled with forgiveness is the natural state of human beings, but somewhere along the line, this ability is sometimes forgotten. We sometimes forget that by forgiving ourselves or someone else we heal ourselves and our baggage along with it. Forgiveness takes away the hurt and pain caused to us by traumatic experiences and the other person, it also extinguishes the past injury so that it will have a less of a hold over your sense of self. Forgiveness allows our spiritual growth to flourish and accelerates a new beginning with ourselves and others. It removes the negativity within us which would otherwise eat into our vitals and affect our thinking process. This can help you avoid depression, anxiety and make you more able to cope with negative emotions when they do come. Qualities of a forgiving person: Understand Who You Are Peace of mind Happy Less stress High confidence High self-worth Ability to choose what right Awareness of Expectations in the present Moment Authenticity Commitment to being Grateful A life with forgiveness allows your mind to be still and present, forgiveness releases repressed emotions and make the person much less stressed. Plus without all of the baggage, the person realizes their own worth and therefore has very high confidence as a result. There is no escapism through numbing impulses there is just pure authenticity and a high felt sensation of gratitude. Life Without Forgiveness If we stop forgiving, emotions and energy is built up in our subconscious and body that has no way to escape. This grows continuously and the more we resist it the more pain enters our lives. Feeling negative emotions about ourselves and others is inevitable, everybody feels shame, anger or fear but when you do not forgive these emotions they become part of your identity and run your life. Without forgiveness, we never learn to see the people, who hurt us with new eyes. This destroys relationships and our own wellbeing. These pent-up emotions cause us to dump them elsewhere perhaps either on innocent people or they get buried in our subconscious mind which often results in mood swings, misery, and depression. This has a compound effect and instead of emotions feeling light they magnify with the addition of previous trauma. This means that the intensity of our bad emotions will be much more than others who face the same problems. You may have noticed how people deal with the situation better than you and this is why. Life without forgiveness: Depression Low self-esteem Physical illnesses Stress Sadness Anger Uncontrollable emotions Outburst Shame Guilt Sometime it may seem like you do not need to forgive as too much has happened and you may become used to the feeling. This is the wrong path as the emotions are still there and will not allow you to feel the good emotions in life. You mustn’t become numb but instead feel every emotion fully and forgive. How to Use Forgiveness to Heal Yourself Forgiveness doesn’t mean giving in, it means letting go of the emotion around tough situations in your life. The emotions that have massive amounts of charge and energy around them that compensate for the powerlessness we feel when we are hurt. If you let go of your baggage through holistic means and just keep practicing, it triggers a change in the brain. Most of the time as you do this the people who are forgiven may never even realize that they had wronged us because it is you who has let it affect you. They may have a completely different perspective. They need not even know because it is not for them that you have done it, but it is for your own growth that you need to forgive. Forgiveness, then, is not something we do to help others, it is to help yourself. Guided meditation is one of the best techniques used for forgiveness. If you have repressed emotions or beliefs caused by another person you do not have to say this to the person directly. Simply release them through meditating. We dive deep into your subconscious to find exactly what you are holding onto and what you need to release. We then implement positive beliefs back into your subconscious allowing you to live a much calmer and peaceful existence.